A pastor fell badly and publicly. Afterward, his friends, also pastors, went back over years of conversations and noticed something they had missed. He was the one they all went to, and he had never told any of them what he was struggling with. Lisa Fields summed up the problem in one sentence: "So we had a false sense of closeness because we were confiding in him, but nobody knew him." Read it twice. Then ask yourself honestly whether it describes you.
The witnesses in these Jude 3 Project conversations give a consistent answer to the leader who is running on empty. Leaders last when they stop trying to be the source of their own strength. A few people need to actually know them. They depend on God for what they cannot carry. They release their grip before they try to rest. And they anchor their worth somewhere a platform cannot reach. None of these is a single decision. Each is a habit you keep returning to.
What follows is a course of practice, not a lecture. In the first sitting you will draw a map of who carries whose weight in your life. In the second you will read a calling story carefully enough to take its comfort without claiming a promise it never makes. In the third you will practice release with your own hands. In the fourth you will find where your worth is actually anchored. Each sitting adds one line to a personal rhythm. By the end you will have written something you can come back to, and you will test it against the answer you started with.